Dedications, Words & Their Worth

Another wedding invite made its way to my doorstep today, and guess what? It really was just another wedding card.

Not many people get married in the summer out here, owing to the humidity and heat. Whenever someone does tie the knot during such an extreme part of the year, you would expect them to make an effort to making it special.

But no. They don’t. It’s just a wedding. So it does not matter if the wedding and the myriad functions that make it up follow a generic pattern.

Call me fussy and hard-to-please, but do not tell me that a marriage can be impersonal and so completely displaced from what the bride and the groom actually want it to be.

Do not tell me

It was destiny that brought us together.

It was love that will keep us together.

is the best you can come up with on your own wedding card.

It. Is. Just. Not. Done.

When mum & dad celebrated their Silver Jubilee, my sister and I handled the invitations. We were lucky to find Joseph D’cunha of Nirmiti Arts, who by the way is an absolute gem and a certified genius, to help us out.Wedding-Quote

The words we wanted printed on the card came to me with no great effort and when Mr. D’cunha asked me to write him a rough copy, I unknowingly gave him an idea.

He handed me a pristine sheet of paper with a ruled sheet underneath and made me pen down the words in my head. He wanted to use my handwriting instead of the usual typeface!

My sister and I were gobsmacked! We had no idea such a thing could be remotely possible.

We heartily agreed to the plan and after nearly half an hour of writing with my hand held steady, I penned down one of the most memorable pieces I ever wrote.

Once upon a time…
Two young hearts met, courted
And pledged their lives to each other.

They created a beautiful home,
Where the hearth was always warm,
The food always aplenty,
And guests always welcome.

They have seen us- their daughters,
Grow from little pig-tailed girls,
To young women.

They have taught us the meaning
Of Life, Love & Family.

They spent 25 memorable years
Walking by each other
Through life’s ups & downs.

 I ended it then with the actual invitation.

Looking back, it was perhaps not the most perfectly written piece of prose on the planet, but it was special. So special, that mum and dad were touched and so were the people we invited. 

Cards that speak of love might be chucked into the bin. The words hang on though. Sometimes forever.

 Which is why I write my own cards. On a side note, it is also why I write more than I talk.  


Spring Cleaning Treasure Trove

Spring is here and summer is hard on its heels.

There's fish aplenty...

... In Giriz Talav

I found some adorable Christening & Communion favours...

And some wedding favours too...

…while I was indulging in some Spring Cleaning in the house.

From symbols of a new life to tokens of a new phase of life, it’s a lovely circle… and how fitting for me to find this trove of love on a lovely spring day.

The Great Bridal Gown Search

M said “Shock ’em all”.

S said “I like what you select”.

R said “It’s you”.

V said “It’s Reen”.

P said “Less skin”.

G said “Demure”.

R said “Not white”.

B said “Comfortable”.

M said “Anything you wear you make it look good”.

J said “Chuckle chuckle”.

S said “Magical”.

L said “Gasp”.

A line from my Facebook bio which I feel I must add out here (my talisman for the coming days until I settle on the final design):

There are places I would love to see and things I’d like to do… But something I would like more is to be content and be me.

Pillsbury has Flown the Coop

Shonette, my bestest friend in the whole world has left for distant shores and life is never going to be quite the same again.

It was an emotional scene at the airport yesterday with everybody coming to bid a fond farewell to a girl who has never held back on anything with anyone. Loving came naturally to Shon and probably is what has always kept me bound to her as a friend and confidante for 8 wonderful years.

Every major happening in my adult life, I have shared with Shon. There was NOTHING that was too important for her to leave and come running to me whenever I needed her the most.

I cannot imagine what or how things will be for the coming years when I won’t be having her nearby to turn to when the going gets tough. But one thing I do know is Shon will never be too busy or too far away to keep our bond from loosening.

I have fared better with the written word than with the spoken word and what follows is the most special way in which I could express my this request. No wedding frippery, no complex cards, no special flowers and chocolates could mean more than what I am going to say next.

So today, on this sacred and special space, as I remember the person who has known me better than anybody and loved every facet of me way before Melroy ever knew me, I ask just one question:

Will you do me the honor of being my Maid-of-Honor, Shonette Brako?

P.S: If any of my friends ever come across this post, please keep it to yourselves. This is for Shon to discover and answer.